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How to be a woman

October 14, 2010

There may come a time, my friend,
when you have lived too many lives
that are not your own,
followed too many rules that broke your spirit,
and mastered the art of imitation.
This will be a time when you’ve forgotten your own shape
and you find that you no longer remember
just how to be a woman.
Believe this: you can remember again,
you can fit back into the shape that you were meant to be.
It hasn’t truly gone away.

Start by taking a deep breath
and sit quietly while you
listen to the wisdom written on your heart
by your God/Goddess.

Be kind to yourself
caress your skin, your hair,
your breasts,
all the body bits that make you woman.

Gently touch the flabby bits, the too-skinny bits,
the old bits, the not-perfect bits

Stop to kiss Mother Earth, Gaia,
bend your knees, run your fingers through her soil
hug her trees, blow kisses into her wind.

Twirl your skirts
kick up your heels
and dance while you listen
to the music nobody else hears.

Then, when you are ready, turn your head in the direction
your own journey calls you
and don’t look back
even when you hear the cries
of those who feel betrayed
by your leaving.

Stand tall, my friend,
you need to be courageous for this remembering
you need to be ready to break things
shift things
disturb the status quo.

You need to be powerful,
and wise, and steadfast,
in this re-birth
because it is what is expected of you
by all of those waiting for you to lead them.

Make no mistake –
they ARE waiting for you to lead them
because they are afraid,
they are hurting,
and they have lost their way.

They need your strength,
your courage,
your beauty,
your art,
to lead them into this new place.

But first,
be gentle,
sit quietly,
for you need this time of rest
to prepare you for the journey.

13 Comments leave one →
  1. October 14, 2010 2:37 pm

    Beautiful, Heather, simply beautiful. xoO

  2. desireeadaway permalink
    October 14, 2010 2:45 pm

    I love everything you write but this just rocked my world….rocked it.

  3. October 14, 2010 4:27 pm

    Oh Heather, I think you have just said all that needs to be done for so very many of us. I have forgotten who I am, I’ve tried to be so many for all those who “need” me, and yet, feel as though there is no one there for my needs… maybe it is time for me to be there for me, and to remember the woman I am meant to be. Wonderful post, just wonderful… thank you!

  4. October 14, 2010 7:29 pm

    WoW! Thank You! Eloquent and Beautiful.

  5. Paula's Paradise permalink
    October 14, 2010 9:28 pm

    Simply exquisite. I’m re-reading this daily. Thank you, thank you!!

  6. October 14, 2010 10:13 pm

    beautifully expressed

  7. Karla Penner permalink
    October 14, 2010 10:48 pm

    A gift to me today…. Thankyou.

  8. Sidney permalink
    October 15, 2010 7:48 am

    Your words touched my spirit, and my spirit needed your words. I’ve printed them and will carry them with me, always.

  9. October 15, 2010 2:32 pm

    Beautiful– and just what I needed at this moment! Thank you.

  10. October 16, 2010 7:06 am

    Heather, this is powerful powerful medicine – hitting me right in the center of my being. Thank you for following the call of your own heart and for sharing the courage here on your blog. You are leading for sure.

  11. October 17, 2010 12:09 pm

    i agree with renae: this is a powerful post, and it’s a powerful example that you following your own heart then share here. rest? yes. i need rest. and space. then a pair of good shoes for the journey. maybe a convertible, too.

  12. October 17, 2010 9:06 pm

    Heather, this is lovely–but oh so fiercely powerful and strong (sounds like the ideal woman, eh?). Reminds me very much of Mary Oliver’s poem “The Journey.” If you haven’t read that, please do!

    Thanks for sharing this–I will return and read again…and again.

  13. WildcherryExotica permalink
    October 19, 2010 10:12 am

    Magnificent piece of art. Thank you. This will be in my favs box to be pulled on whenever the desire for clarity grips me. You have given me a concise piece of prose to embrace and make a part of my journey. I am truly grateful for your gift.

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