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My birthday! Plus an invitation to join the Sisterhood of the Burning Bra!

May 20, 2010

Yes, it’s my birthday. It is with great relief that I say good-bye to last year and usher in a new one. Last year seemed to be the year of “refining” and in my experience, refining is rarely fun. I’m ready to move on!

The beauty of turning 44 is that you’ve reached an age where you care less and less about how silly you might look. Some day I’ll probably wear a purple dress with a red hat! 🙂 Or a Mardi Gras mask to work. (Darn – I wish I’d thought of that today!)

As a way of ushering in a new year, I want to make a new commitment to myself, and I’d like you to join me! Please raise your right and repeat with me the pledge of the Sisterhood of the Burning Bra:

As an esteemed member of the Sisterhood of the Burning Bra, I hereby commit to doing my best to do the following:

  • commit to the fire the old stories that serve no other purpose but to shackle me
  • listen more carefully to the wisdom of my body and honour it when it sends me signals related to hunger, fullness, rest, and movement
  • not listen quite as carefully to the negative voices in my head that are usually lying to me
  • giggle with glee when I feel like it
  • make a confession when I have wronged someone and then believe that I am forgiven
  • lean on my sisters around the circle and trust that they will offer compassion, wisdom, and courage
  • let myself be guided into the place of power that the Creator makes available to me
  • stand up more boldly and say “NO!” when people try to shovel unnecessary guilt on my shoulders
  • wiggle my toes in the sand and be moved by the sense of touch
  • honour the other sisters in the circle and offer them my giftedness
  • dream really crazy big dreams
  • not allow fear to hold a larger space in my life than it deserves
  • wear Mardi Gras masks (or silly hats or mismatched socks) once in awhile, just for fun
  • gently forgive myself for the times when I fail to live up to these commitments
  • hold occasional rituals where I burn symbols of the things I want to let go of


Thank you for being in my circle! (And by the way, I welcome all brothers into the circle too! Some of you are my best allies and I don’t want to leave you out!)

For a couple of related posts, check out my guest posts at Square Peg Reflections and at Blisschick. I’m delighted to have been welcomed into their spaces on this special day!

5 Comments leave one →
  1. May 20, 2010 7:16 am

    I need to throw the sense of self-loathing this extra 20-ish pounds has put upon me. Perhaps I need to throw being too “body-image focused” in there with it. There are probably five or six other things I could toss in, too.

    So … may I join?

  2. May 20, 2010 4:20 pm

    what wonderful birthday intentions! may you live into each one and have a lovely, meaningful, grace-filled birthday! blessings, katy

  3. May 21, 2010 11:35 am

    YAY! A photo!!! 🙂 How much FUN it looks like you were having. I wish I could have been there.

  4. Dovelily permalink
    May 21, 2010 12:04 pm

    Love it! What a fantastic way to celebrate your birthday! Do you feel liberated? I’ve got a few things to toss into that fire, myself. Happy birthday, Heather! Thank you for sharing your journey so intimately with us. xoxo

  5. May 30, 2010 8:47 am

    hooray and cheers to that (throws bra into fire)!!!!!
    your wisdon warms me. i feel so lucky to have found you.
    happy 44th, again. 4 is one of my FAVE numbers, so this MUST be a banner year coming up.



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